Parents always have a favorite child... and here is what it is!

 

Parents always have a favorite child... and here's who they are!

Who hasn't suspected their parents of having a favorite? Between sibling rivalries and feelings of injustice, the question of the favorite child has always fueled family discussions. A new study conducted by researchers at Brigham Young University (BYU) in the United States has just confirmed that parents do indeed have a fondness for one of their children. But what are the criteria that influence this preference?

Older Children: More Independent, but Less Pampered

Contrary to the idea that the eldest child receives preferential treatment, the study shows that firstborns generally have more autonomy, but also more responsibilities. Parents, often more demanding with them, pay them less attention over the years. This dynamic can give the impression that younger children have more of an advantage, which fuels tensions within siblings.

Younger children: parents' favorites?

According to the study's results, younger children generally receive more lenient treatment. They receive more emotional support and benefit from a more flexible parenting framework. This trend is partly explained by the experience parents have with older children: they are often less stressed and more relaxed when raising their youngest children.

Girls have a slight advantage

Another interesting point highlighted by the research is the issue of gender. Parents tend to slightly favor their daughters over their sons, although this preference is often unconscious. Interestingly, this distinction is more noticeable among the parents themselves than among the children, who do not necessarily feel this difference in treatment.

Personality plays a key role

Far beyond birth order or gender, a child's personality also influences parental preference. Researchers have found that the most responsible and agreeable children—those who obey easily, show empathy, and take initiative—generally receive better treatment. Thus, a caring and independent child, regardless of their sibling rank, is more likely to be the favorite.

A message to parents: balance is key

Faced with these revelations, should we feel guilty as a parent? Absolutely not, replies Professor Alex Jensen, lead author of the study. It's natural to have a greater affinity with a child due to personality, shared interests, or family background. The key is to be aware of this to avoid creating a feeling of injustice in other children. As the expert emphasizes, "children will let you know if they find something unfair. It's important to listen and adjust your behavior if necessary."

So, are you the favorite child?

While this study may rekindle family debates, it also serves as a reminder that every child is unique and perceives parental love in their own way. Ultimately, what matters most is the overall relationship with their parents, not a fleeting favorite status. But admit it... You already have a good idea of who the family favorite is, right? 😉